Through ancient literature we can tell the notion of ‘forgive but never forget’ has been ingrained in man kind since the evolution from monkey to man. When I was younger, and none the wiser I too embraced this quote as the be all end all of quotes. Even when I was 5 and daddy yelled at me and made me kneel on rice bowls I swore to myself to never talk to him again, and that I did for a whole 2 weeks! In kiddy years, 2 weeks seemed like 2 centuries! This notion along with, no sex before marriage, no belief in abortion and having to carry a matching handbag got thrown out the windor when the REAL game of life kicked in.

It makes me wonder how much of this ‘moral’ bullshit one is willing to push when put in a tight situation.

Based on traditional assumptions of friendship, I cant say I have many friends.
I’ve grown up with the notion that friends (good friends/bestest friends) always stick by each other, even when one is wrong the other would still stick by the wrong friend. When someone wrongs one friend, they have also wronged the other friend. So when one friend thinks someone’s a dickhead the other implicitly thinks that, that same someone is a dickhead too.
But with this new ‘grown up’ notion of friendship that people are individuals and one must be mature and let your good/bestest friend befriend someone that you despise, so much so that you even start hating their mum for being a slut and sleeping with their dad resulting in the coming together of sperm and egg to create such a horrid person like that someone. I’ve come to expect nothing less than people not caring about who you hate and why you hate them.

To my guilty pleasant surprise, the other day when a somebody wronged me, my dear friend Hsa made it a point that no one was to treat her friend like that. Whoa…. I really just expected everyone to go on with their lives, while I vomited blood in anger.
It’s sometimes nice to have someone stick up for you and make it known….. as childish as it may seem I think these childish gestures reaffirm the reasons you love your friends so much. These days friendships are based on bullshit, a foundation of nothing except maybe commonalities.

Having said that, and going back to the ‘forgive but never forget’ notion, I think its also a whole bundle of bullshit.
If you were gonna remain anger and ‘on edge’ all the time then you would drive yourself mental! So I realised that I forget actually quite easily, most of the time I dont even remember why I’ve had an argument with someone.

I say if a bitter, twisted, want-to-stab-in-the-eye person like myself has to employ the forgive and forget notion, everyone should be able to do it too, it would make things so much less intense for everyone… including myself….

Hsa, thanks mate, you wont read it and I will never say it to your face cos i dont want you to laugh and call me homo but I love you mate!

xox
godess